An inspiring mom and her story…
Welcome to Mom-Monday. I’m glad you are here!
It seems like I’ve had so many inspiring moms cross my path lately.
Moms like Carole, who told me about what happened when she and her daughter Heidi, who has Down Syndrome, went to the bridal shop in Las Vegas. (I’ll post the story soon; be ready with Kleenex.)
And moms like Michelle, who recently emailed me. Michelle is a new mom whose sweet baby girl had to have emergency colostomy surgery at just two days old.
But in spite of the fact that Michelle is still waiting for answers regarding her daughter’s medical condition, she says, “even though I never thought anything good could come from the experience, with time, I’ve realized it’s possible to see the good in almost every situation.”
One of her recent posts shows the good she’s talking about, and how her daughter’s condition, though challenging and stressful, was able to help someone else.
Here’s Michelle’s post, A Moment In Time:
The other day I got an early morning phone call from one of my best friends. She had arranged a road trip for her 91 year-old father-in-law who wanted to see Niagara Falls with his 2 year-old granddaughter. He was very upset that morning and wanted to cancel the trip because his urostomy bag had leaked and come off. He was down to his last bag and was very worried that it would not hold up for the trip in the hot, muggy weather.
My friend and her husband had been trying to help him all morning, but he kept saying, “You don’t understand,” and, “I hate this bag,” and, “I can’t do this any more.”
I told my friend that my daughter and I were coming over.
We arrived to find a man very frustrated and about to give up…
as if no one could really understand what he was going through.
I wanted him to know that he was not alone.
I showed him my daughter’s colostomy bag and explained how she was having the exact same problems because of the hot weather.
He immediately calmed down when he saw my daughter and agreed to let us help him put on a new bag.
We worked carefully and quietly, and he seemed to enjoy telling us about the special application techniques he had developed over the years. He even commented on how he had the same kind of ostomy paste and I said, “Of course -this kind is the best.”
I gave him some of our special medical tape to seal all the edges and we checked everything again until he was finally confident that the bag would stay in place for the road trip.
It was so touching to watch the interactions between my little baby, who is at the beginning of her life, helping a man who is nearing the end of his.
Despite their incredible differences, for that small moment in time, these two formed a special bond and understood each other perfectly.
I was touched by how Michelle’s baby’s difficult situation was able to bring comfort to her friend’s father.
And I think it’s a beautiful reminder that no matter what hardships or detours we face in life, someone else has been on the path we are on. We are not alone.
So if you’re in a difficult place right now–if you or your child is sick, or if you’re facing a tough time in your family–remember there are others who know how you feel. Turn to moms in your same situation or seek out a support group. Lean on family and friends and ask for prayer, because it makes a difference. (Leave a comment here or send me an email and I’ll be praying for you too).
As to the future, Michelle says, “I will try to focus on the positive things in life. I will smile every day and I will watch my beautiful baby grow big and strong. I will do everything I can to get her the best medical support team I can find, and I will promise to be the best mama I can be.”
I can’t think of a better perspective. Don’t you agree?
If you haven’t already, leave your URL in the link list below so other moms can stop by your site. And stop by Michelle’s site too and say hello. :)