On Being A Role Model to Our Kids…
Welcome to Mom-Monday. I’m glad you’re here!
I’ve mentioned before one of the frustrations that sometimes comes with being a parent: we want to be role models for our kids, yet we’re far from perfect.
No matter how much we try to be loving, consistent, patient, and make the all the right parenting decisions all the time, we’re human and we make mistakes.
But that’s okay.
We don’t have to be perfect moms and dads (is there such a thing, anyway?) to set a positive example for our kids.
Often, it’s not the big, intentional lessons we set out to teach them that make the most impact.
Sometimes, it’s the small, everyday things…
Just this week, when my daughter and I were out running errands, as we walked to our car, she said, “Wait, Mommy.”
She turned and headed in the opposite direction, a couple cars over.
Then she bent down, picked up a piece of half-crumpled newspaper that was on the ground, and ran back over to me.
“Gotta pick this up,” she said, matter-of-fact.
And I realized…she’s noticed when I stop and pick up litter off the ground as we’re walking to school, or inside a store, or in a parking lot.
Then, just a couple days later, I let her and her brother go to the snack bar at the gym while I stayed at a table nearby. I’d given them $5.00 to split a smoothie. When she came back and sat down, I asked her if she’d gotten any change.
She smiled at said, “Yeah, but I put in the tip jar.”
And again, I thought with a smile…she sees when I put the change in the tip jar at Starbucks. Or the car wash. Or wherever we happen to be.
These weren’t lessons I deliberately set out to teach her.
They weren’t things I talked about.
They were things I just did.
And seeing my ten-year-old daughter do them too was a reminder of how everyday things can impact our kids.
And even though I sometimes see a hint of embarrassment in my kids’ eyes when I do things like stop and thank men and women in military uniforms for their sacrifice for our country, I hope that one day, my kids will do the same.
And something tells me that they will. :)
What do you think? Have you ever been surprised by something your kids have picked up on when you didn’t know they were watching? What about some things you’ve done that have had a positive impact on them? I’d love to hear from you…
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