Is the Grass Really Greener?

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I recently had a conversation with a friend that made me think of the saying “the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.” We were talking to each other about how busy life is and I was telling her how hard it’s been for me to get some writing time in every day. Between drop-off and pick-up and sports and school and everything else in between, it’s hard to grab those precious few hours where I can get on my computer and actually accomplish something. Literally, I’ve been leaving my laptop on the kitchen table and grabbing fifteen minutes here, twenty minutes there, whenever I can.

“But, you’re lucky,” my friend said. “At least you have something you’re passionate about, something you’re working on. I feel like I should be doing something too.” Believe me, this friend of mine does a lot—she has twin four-year-old boys. Between swim lessons and preschool and trying to keep up with her boys’ boundless energy, she barely has time to come up for air.

After we got off the phone, I thought about what she said. I thought about the days when my son and daughter were toddlers. The days when I was so immersed in potty training and binkies and temper tantrums that I had little time to think about all the writing I wanted to do. But there were sweet memories, too. Those were the days when our homework was making cookies for class. The days my kids napped and I wasn’t running in and out of the house ten times for drop off or pickup. The days we’d spend at the park playing with friends. When I think back…ahhh…those were the days.

Here my friend and I were, in different stages of our kids’ lives, each of us thinking the grass was greener on the other side of the fence.

Something tells me I’ll look back on this time of my life and sigh too. Years from now, when my kids are driving and dating (gulp), I have a sneaking suspicion I’ll look back on these times–when my daughter still holds my hand walking home from school and my son still wants me to read to him at night–and think ahhh….those were the days.

I don’t want to miss what’s happening today because I’m too busy looking to the future or reminiscing about the past. I don’t want to miss one single second of the wonderful life I’ve been given.

I want to appreciate it.

I want to hold my daughter’s hand a little tighter and read to my son a little longer. I want to give my husband a sweeter kiss when he walks through the door. Because the grass I’m standing on is green and lush and beautiful, right where I’m at.

Sometimes I just need a little reminder.

5 Comments on Is the Grass Really Greener?

  1. Genny Heikka
    April 3, 2008 at 1:24 am (9 years ago)

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  2. shannon
    April 3, 2008 at 2:19 pm (9 years ago)

    Hi Genny. Neat blog!I like this one particularly. It made me cry. We need to appreciate every moment. Every person I talk to with teenage or adult kids say how fast the time went from when their kids were little first graders like my daughter, to where they are now.

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  3. carrie
    April 6, 2008 at 11:37 pm (9 years ago)

    that is a good reminder! thanks for visiting my blog today. I appreciate your leaving a comment so I know who’s reading.

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  4. Shannon Granno
    April 9, 2008 at 2:47 am (9 years ago)

    Hey Genny,What a great idea this is, I love it! I have really been working on this. Living in the moment and being present and in the here and now. After reading Eckhart Tolle’s book, “A New Earth” I have been able to stop worrying so much about the future or what I did not do in the past. I am simply just trying to accept and appreciate what I or we are doing right now. I have got to tell you what a better place to be. I am not stressing like I use to. Just taking each moment as it comes and accepting it for what it is. The song, “Your Gonna Miss This”, by Trace Adkins is also is a good reminder that these are the days. Whatever age you and your kids are. It is now that matters most so don’t miss it.If you have not heard it, you’ve got to listen to it.I look forward to coming to your blog again.Thanks for sharing.

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  5. Elle
    June 6, 2008 at 7:34 pm (9 years ago)

    Living in today’s moment, it is a challenge but a worthy pursuit!Excellent post !thanks

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